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10 Wedding Planning Tasks to Delegate

Great advise this week.  I found this amazing tidbit on Wedding Aces , check it out!!

Overwhelmed yet?  Chances are, unless you hired a full-service wedding producer, you are going to find yourself overwhelmed at one point or another in reviewing the “to do” list.  Monthly check lists are great motivators and very helpful (check out the helpful planning guides offered through WeddingWire) – when reviewing the tasks, consider each line item with the analysis:

  • Do I have to do this?
  • Do I want to do this?
  • Do I want this but don’t necessarily want to do this?
  • Who would want to do this?

Yes, it can be hard to let go, but trust me – and your friends, family and fiance – you don’t have to do it all.  In fact, you likely have family and friends (and a fiance) who want to help.

Here are 5 wedding items that the groom could manage:

  1. Shop for and select his and his groomsmen’s formal attire.  He’ll have help from his best man to make sure measurements and orders are sent to the tux shop.
  2. Research and plan the honeymoon.  Sure, you’ll likely want some input, but as for the details – let him run with it!
  3. Research and arrange the marriage license. It doesn’t take much time or effort, honestly; and its one thing that is absolutely required, so placing this easy task squarely in your partner’s hands should allow it to be checked off even quicker.
  4. Design your wedding website. This is a fun project; and with a number of pre-designed wedding styled websites to chose from, the technical know-how doesn’t require formal training.
  5. Keep track of the wedding budget. A big part of married life is money management, so why not start establishing communication and financial habits via the planning of your wedding?

Here are 5 more items that could be delegated:

  1. Research. In the beginning, there are wedding magazines and blogs and lots of opinions and suggestions coming your way from friends and family.  Recruit the opinion of those your trust most to ‘get’ your style and likes (and dislikes) and ask them to help research: venues, floral design, vet wedding professionals and narrow down a selection to chose from – you have valuable resources and people who want to share their opinion: go for it!  Set up a Pinterest board and allow others to pin their ideas, too.  You never know what stellar reception idea might come from someone else posting a cool find!
  2. Assembling favors, invitations. Ok, this one involves you; but it’ll take no time at all if you invite others over for an assembly party: tie ribbons, assemble invitations, address envelope.  Add munchies and a movie and you have a party!
  3. Assemble Restroom Amenity Baskets. Your guests will love a basket or decorative box of hand lotions, soaps, mouthwash, mints, etc. waiting for them in your reception restrooms; its a great project for a friend or relative to take on.
  4. Assemble an Emergency Kit. A professional wedding planner will come to your wedding with a kit of “just in case” things (like over-sized clothes pins for bustling the dress, stain treatment, an extra bow tie…) but a friend or bridesmaid can assemble just-in-case items for your bridal suite.  Things like deodorant, bottled water, a portable hand-held fan, aspirin, ponytail holders and hair pins, feminine products, even drink straws (so as to not smudge your freshly applied lipstick!) will be a nice relief to not have to worry about.
  5. Welcome Gift Bags. When your out-of-town guests arrive at at their hotel, having a “welcome” gift bag or box waiting for them is a delight!  Stocked with snacks and refreshments, itinerary and maps, CD of music to inspire the weekend, list of local attractions, its an easy project to delegate to a creative (local) friend or family member.  If you want to craft the gifts yourself, than delegating the delivery and handling of the bags to someone else is a huge relief on your time when the wedding day approaches.

What do you think?  Are you finding it hard to let go or ask for help?  What have you successfully delegated?


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Wedding Planning: Wedding Dates to Avoid in 2013, 2014 and 2015

Wedding dates are hard enough to decide but it always nice to know which days wouldn’t work in advance.  I noticed this post on the Knot this week and thought it would be something interesting for all of my readers to consider…. enjoy!!

Personally Significant Days

Check your own calendar for college reunions, family weddings, anniversaries or other events, like big conventions or festivals in your city (call your local chamber of commerce), and any annual occasions that involve your family or close friends.

Holiday Weekends

Holiday weekend weddings have pros and cons. You’ve got an extra day for the festivities (and recovery!); plus, a Sunday wedding is often less expensive than a Saturday one would be. However, costs of travel and hotels may be higher. And if you’re looking to marry around Valentine’s Day, be wary of your floral bill, especially if you’ve got your heart set on red roses — they’ll likely be more expensive than at any other time of the year. Likewise, reception sites often charge a higher fee for a New Year’s Eve wedding. Also consider the impact of a holiday weekend on your guest list: Some families have standing plans or traditions that they’d prefer not to miss.


Martin Luther King Jr. Day (always a Monday)
Weekend of January 19-21, 2013
Weekend of January 18-20, 2014
Weekend of January 17-19, 2015

Presidents’ Day (always a Monday)
Weekend of February 16-18, 2013
Weekend of February 15-17, 2014
Weekend of February 14-16, 2015

Mother’s Day (always a Sunday)
Make sure your moms are okay sharing this weekend with your wedding. And ask yourself, do you want your anniversary to fall the same weekend as Mother’s Day when (or if) you become a mom?
Weekend of May 11-12, 2013
Weekend of May 10-11, 2014
Weekend of May 9-10, 2015

Memorial Day (always a Monday)
Weekend of May 25-27, 2013
Weekend of May 24-26, 2014
Weekend of May 23-25, 2015

Father’s Day (always a Sunday)
Like you would with your moms, check with your dads about doubling up on this day. And grooms, make sure you’re okay with celebrating your anniversary the same weekend as Father’s Day if you decide to have kids.
Weekend of June 15-16, 2013
Weekend of June 14-15, 2014
Weekend of June 20-21, 2015

Independence Day
Thursday, July 4, 2013
Friday, July 4, 2014
Saturday, July 4, 2015

Labor Day (always a Monday)
Weekend of August 31-September 2, 2013
Weekend of August 30-September 1, 2014
Weekend of September 5-7, 2015

Numerically Quirky Dates

11/12/13 falls on a Tuesday
4/10/2014 (a palindrome) falls on a Thursday
12/13/14 falls on a Saturday

5/5/15 falls on a Tuesday
5/10/15 falls on a Sunday
5/15/15 falls on a Friday

Columbus Day (always a Monday)
Weekend of October 12-14, 2013
Weekend of October 11-13, 2014
Weekend of October 10-12, 2015

Avoid it if you’re terrified that someone might actually show up in costume (and embrace it if you want them to!).
Thursday, October 31, 2013
Friday, October 31, 2014
Saturday, October 31, 2015

Thanksgiving (always a Thursday)
November 28, 2013
November 27, 2014
November 26, 2015

New Year’s Eve
MondayTuesday, December 31, 2013
Wednesday, December 31, 2014
Thursday, December 31, 2015

Religious and Cultural Holidays

Be mindful of religious and cultural holidays (your own and those of your guests) when planning your wedding. There may even be restrictions at your house of worship as to whether you’re allowed to marry at these times.

Palm Sunday
March 24, 2013
April 13, 2014
March 29, 2015

Easter Sunday
March 31, 2013
April 20, 2014
April 5, 2015

Passover (begins at sunset the night before)
Tuesday, March 26, 2013
Tuesday, April 15, 2014
Saturday, April 4, 2015

Tisha B’Av (begins at sunset the night before)
Tuesday, July 16, 2013
Tuesday, August 5, 2014
Sunday, July 26, 2015

Rosh Hashanah (begins at sunset the night before)
Thursday, September 5, 2013, until nightfall on Friday, September 6, 2013
Thursday, September 25, 2014, until nightfall on Friday, September 26, 2014
Monday, September 14, 2015, until nightfall on Tuesday, September 15, 2015

Yom Kippur (begins at sunset the night before)
Saturday, September 14, 2013
Saturday, October 4, 2014
Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Hanukkah (begins at sunset)
Thursday, November 28, 2013, until nightfall on Thursday, December 5, 2013
Wednesday, December 17, 2014, until nightfall on Wednesday, December 24, 2014
Monday, December 7, 2015, until nightfall on Monday, December 14, 2015

Wednesday, December 25, 2013
Thursday, December 25, 2014
Friday, December 25, 2015

Thursday, December 26, 2013, until Wednesday, January 1, 2014
Friday, December 26, 2014, until Thursday, January 1, 2015
Saturday, December 26, 2015, until Friday, January 1, 2016

Eid al-Fitr (dates may vary based on how each family observes)
Thursday, August 8, 2013, until Friday, August 9, 2013
Monday, July 28, 2014, until Tuesday, July 29, 2014
Friday, July 17, 2015, until Saturday, July 18, 2015

Eid al-Adha (dates may vary based on how each family observes)
Monday, October 14, 2013, until Tuesday, October 15, 2013
Saturday, October 4, 2014, until Sunday, October 5, 2014
Wednesday, September 23, 2015, until Thursday, September 24, 2015

Ram Navami
Saturday, April 20, 2013
Tuesday, April 8, 2014
Saturday, March 28, 2015

Krishna Janmashtami
Wednesday, August 28, 2013
Sunday, August 17, 2014
Saturday, September 5, 2015

Days of Remembrance

We’re talking about historically significant days (like the anniversary of September 11) that may be off-limits if you come from a big military family. Or, that could make them all the more meaningful — it’s up to you to decide.

Patriot Day
Wednesday, September 11, 2013
Thursday, September 11, 2014
Friday, September 11, 2015

National Pearl Harbor Remembrance Day
Saturday, December 7, 2013
Sunday, December 7, 2014
Monday, December 7, 2015

Major Sporting Events

If you’re die-hard sports fans — or if you’re worried your guests might have a hard time choosing between your wedding and the big game — avoid getting married during popular sporting events. And if a lot of your guests come from the same alma mater, watch out for homecoming weekends and bowl games that might conflict.

Super Bowl Sunday
February 3, 2013, in New Orleans
February 2, 2014, in East Rutherford, NJ
February 1, 2015, in Glendale, AZ

Final Four and March Madness
Saturday, April 6, 2013, and Monday, April 8, 2013, in Atlanta
Saturday, April 5, 2014, and Monday, April 7, 2014, in Arlington, TX
Saturday, April 4, 2015, and Monday, April 6, 2015, in Indianapolis

Unlucky Dates

If you’re superstitious, you might want to watch out for these historically inauspicious dates from across several cultures.

The Ides of March
For ancient Romans, an “ides” was simply a date that marked the middle of the month — until Julius Caesar was assassinated on March 15 in 44 B.C. Since then, “Beware the Ides of March” has become the mantra of this superstitiously unlucky date.
Friday, March 15, 2013
Saturday, March 15, 2014
Sunday, March 15, 2015

Friday the 13th
The unluckiest date of the year has questionable origins. Some historians say it comes from the 13 diners who were present at the last supper, but the famous Code of Hammurabi doesn’t include a 13th law, which suggests this superstition is as many as 3 millennia old. And it wasn’t until a successful novel titled Friday the Thirteenth was published in the early 1900s that Friday became part of the unlucky equation.
September 13, 2013
December 13, 2013
June 13, 2014
February 13, 2015
March 13, 2015
November 13, 2015

Leap Years
Greeks and Romans thought that starting any new life event — from getting married to baptizing a child — in a leap year would bring bad luck.
Next Leap Year: 2016

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